Feeling like a failure is one of the most painful experiences we can go through.
We compare ourselves with others and feel like our efforts are never going to match up.
We may think that some people our age have accomplished more in life than we have, or that you are less capable than others.
For example, as we scroll through social media, we begin to compare our lives to those of our friends. The better, more glamorous lives they portray to the rest of the world.
We can be quite successful but still feel like failures.
It’s normal. It happens
We all feel like this from time to time and that is normal.
Your feelings of failure are more about how you perceive the failure and what it means to you than it is about the failure itself.
And the reality is that you aren’t really failing.
In fact, you might be a lot closer to success than you think.
As long as you are learning, you are not failing.
- Bob Ross
The very concept of ‘failure’ assumes that it’s final and nothing can be done about it.
But that often isn’t the case.
You’re not failing. You’re just not there yet.
You’re learning, and you’re going to be learning all through life...
In your careers, relationships, investments, and health.
Every day we are on a constant journey of learning - both as individuals and as a collective.
The ego will beat you up and tell you that you are failing.
But it’s important that we take back our sovereignty and realise that we’re actually growing and evolving.
Sometimes we might need to learn some lessons over and over again till we get it.
But that still doesn’t make you anywhere close to being a ‘failure’.
So the next time you find yourself beating yourself up - for seemingly failing.
Just remember.
You’re actually learning, growing, and gathering information, so you can do it better the next time around.
You are a work in progress and everything will fall to its rightful place.
What you can do to handle these feelings.
I encourage you to take some time out to self-reflect on your life over the last year to date. You’ll find that you have grown in many more ways than one.
Go easy on yourself, don’t beat yourself up. Step by step we are all learning.
Reflecting on one's “true self” can provide you with a greater sense of well-being.
Knowing yourself well could not only inform you about what you need to change, but it can also open you up to approaching yourself in a more positive manner.
As I previously stated on my blog “How To Change Your Life” …
Awareness of yourself allows you to see yourself in a different, more honest light.
Meditation is beneficial, it helps.
It can help you deal with daily pressures, anxiety, addiction, and just about anything else in life.
It not only makes you feel better, think more clearly, and have less stress in your life, but it's also scientifically proven to make you feel happier and healthier!
With constant practice of meditation, you will notice that you feel better about yourself (that you have greater self-acceptance) even when things don't go as planned.
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In light & love,
Tom
